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Robin Eileen Bernstein's avatar

Thanks for this post, Sari. This is such an important topic. Many years ago I took a memoir-writing workshop with a well-known author. I was in the very early stages of drafting and like you, anxious at the prospect of writing about family and friends. I asked this author how it felt to include a scene in their memoir in which a family member makes a not-so-flattering appearance. The author's response? "F**k 'em!" I was floored. Because there was no way I could follow that advice. And my memoir-in-progress isn't a "tell all." Nobody gets trashed. And yet. People can get upset about the smallest things. So I decided, no surprises; everyone gets to see what I've written about them before it's published. If that's not possible, names/details are changed as much as possible. When it comes to family/friends versus writer, the former wins.

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Amy Lemmon's avatar

Thank you for the repost! Such perfect timing as I am navigating the choppy straits of memoir.

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