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The second eloquent and dead-on addiction piece I have read in the last few day's under the indefatigable Sari's auspices. As good an evocation of the addict's spiral into self-delusion as I know, and a stark reminder of what it was like. So grateful for that reminder of how blessed I am to have been in long-term recovery. I wish you only the very best.

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Reading your essay now, Syd!

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What a beautiful, heartwrenching essay. Thank you for helping me feel less alone in a family that has been on a strikingly parallel journey. Not that long ago I decided to quit bargaining in my own little corner. (Not an easy decision; I am a rather excellent negotiator.) Because what if the wreckage, the generational trauma, the family addiction to addiction, could stop with me.

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As a sister with two brothers who have fallen down the deep well of addiction, one to never return, thank you for writing this beautiful piece.

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May 22Liked by Sari Botton

Just gorgeous. Jeez

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An amazing piece of writing Frances, totally compelling from the first paragraph. x

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This is absolutely stunning!

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A gorgeous essay that I really related to. Thank you for writing it.

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What an amazing essay. Thanks for sharing this, Frances, your sentences so graceful as you recount these tragedies and the pain.

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A punch in the gut and an ache in the heart for anyone who has been there. This was brutal and beautiful.

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May 22Liked by Sari Botton

As the child of 2 alcoholics, I always assumed family addiction and acted cautiously.

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May 24Liked by Sari Botton

Wow Frances. Such a powerful and incredibly written piece. For the few minutes it took to read I was transported to a different place and mindset. Thank you!

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WOW! I am in awe at your ability to tell this deeply emotional and beautifully rendered story. You did an amazing job of inviting us into our adjacent stories with our emotional experiences, just a tender invitation. I am flabbergasted! BRAVO.

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Thank you for sharing this beautiful and heartbreaking essay, @Frances Dodds.

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Everyone but me is already in their 70s. Or dead. All the sisters and cousins, I mean. Worries about addiction are long dead. The worry is now dementia. Turns out, it was a thing for our parents. It's a bigger thing for the cousins and sisters in their 70s, especially if they have hearing loss. I'm at t-minus two years and counting, until setenta, and I can't hear myself fart with my eight-year-old hearing aids. And yet, 1% of me wants to gear up and give Substack a crack, after I get my third book of Memories on Amazon next month. But, fuck, really? REALLY? Powerful story, Frances. Blessings from NZ. Kia kaha. Stay strong.

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So beautiful, the weave of emotions, the bond of siblings. The challenges we can see in ourselves and our ties of kinship. Thank you

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May 23Liked by Sari Botton

So powerful. So heartbreaking. So familiar.

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