I celebrate this book! A fellow divorcee and solo mom of two daughters. Very determined to thrive without child support or childcare. And write! Post-separation abuse was worse than during marriage, so it took a good 4 years to fully liberate us AFTER divorce, and I wish more women knew about the long off-ramp, so to speak. We live in a beautiful forest setting and I home school, so our scenario feels more like co-working. We take meals together then retreat to our separate corners to study, then reconvene for meals. It’s nothing I’d ever envisioned, and it’s atypical, but it’s harmonious. Everything she’s said here is true!
We need way more good books about divorce and ending what isn’t working in an honest and true way. The marriage and even formal domestic agreements are again becoming a narrative of success. Things and people change and fear limits so much growth. Been thru 2 and I am so much better for them! So are my kids and everyone really!
My ex left in 2019. It took about a year and a half for me to get divorced. I was the breadwinner, it was fucking expensive and I was a mess. I remember talking with a friend about how much it cost and she said, "Would have been worth twice that." I laughed, she was 100% correct. It took some time but my life is better in uncountable ways.
I chewed through the book over the weekend, it was wildly validating. I would love to see this go to readers who are hesitating. But good lord, the other audience that needs this is probably not going to touch it. My ex recently sent a mutual a reel of some charlatan talking about how women file for most divorces because as we age, our lady hormones make us crazy. Sure, that's it, not the endless fully recognizable scenarios Lyz lays out in her book.
Which is all to say, yes to Lyz and her glowing work. May it inspire many to burn it all down.
Enjoyed this and the fabulous Glamour article. So much of this I relate with… it has taken my breath away. I’m so proud of what you have been able to build for yourself, Lyz👏🏻👏🏻standing ovation!!!
Super curious when Lyz refers to her siblings as niblings is that intentional or a typo? Niblings feels adorably accurate like those tiny fish they use for pedicures in Greece.
Thank you for this interview, what a gift. I heard @Lyz on a podcast recently and was so happy to learn about this new book of hers. Right up my alley! So many delicious quotes in this interview, your publication is such a gem. 🧡
I celebrate this book! A fellow divorcee and solo mom of two daughters. Very determined to thrive without child support or childcare. And write! Post-separation abuse was worse than during marriage, so it took a good 4 years to fully liberate us AFTER divorce, and I wish more women knew about the long off-ramp, so to speak. We live in a beautiful forest setting and I home school, so our scenario feels more like co-working. We take meals together then retreat to our separate corners to study, then reconvene for meals. It’s nothing I’d ever envisioned, and it’s atypical, but it’s harmonious. Everything she’s said here is true!
We need way more good books about divorce and ending what isn’t working in an honest and true way. The marriage and even formal domestic agreements are again becoming a narrative of success. Things and people change and fear limits so much growth. Been thru 2 and I am so much better for them! So are my kids and everyone really!
Love Lyz. Thanks for this! Now the mid-Hudson library system needs to acquire a few more copies.
Great interview! I love Lyz.
I do want to say that it's Nora Ephron. Her name is misspelled here.
Good catch. Fixing...
Happy to help. It would be great if we could all afford editors!
My ex left in 2019. It took about a year and a half for me to get divorced. I was the breadwinner, it was fucking expensive and I was a mess. I remember talking with a friend about how much it cost and she said, "Would have been worth twice that." I laughed, she was 100% correct. It took some time but my life is better in uncountable ways.
I chewed through the book over the weekend, it was wildly validating. I would love to see this go to readers who are hesitating. But good lord, the other audience that needs this is probably not going to touch it. My ex recently sent a mutual a reel of some charlatan talking about how women file for most divorces because as we age, our lady hormones make us crazy. Sure, that's it, not the endless fully recognizable scenarios Lyz lays out in her book.
Which is all to say, yes to Lyz and her glowing work. May it inspire many to burn it all down.
Hear, hear! So sorry for all you went through, Pam. <3
I think of it as my hero's journey. I returned to Ithaca triumphant. :)
I also don’t like pitching stories. A million dollars would be nice. But how about just an honorable mention?
Such depth to this interview. "To stop writing was to stop being me." Added This American Ex-Wife to my reading list. Thanks Sari!
Enjoyed this and the fabulous Glamour article. So much of this I relate with… it has taken my breath away. I’m so proud of what you have been able to build for yourself, Lyz👏🏻👏🏻standing ovation!!!
Gosh that’s so cute 🥰 Love that
Super curious when Lyz refers to her siblings as niblings is that intentional or a typo? Niblings feels adorably accurate like those tiny fish they use for pedicures in Greece.
I believe it’s a reference to nieces and nephews.
Nibblings is a gender neutral term for children of one's siblings - makes space for those who are not binary or might not be binary
Thank you. I’m so much older and yet I so much get this writer.
Thank you for this interview, what a gift. I heard @Lyz on a podcast recently and was so happy to learn about this new book of hers. Right up my alley! So many delicious quotes in this interview, your publication is such a gem. 🧡
Thank you!
Thanks for this inspiring interview. Looking forward to read This American Ex-Wife!
I really enjoyed this interview. Lyz is inspirational and I'm looking forward to reading her book.
i have always enjoyed Lyz’s stuff on here
such a body of work and the pic!!! i wonder if making one’ s elbow look like boobs is on purpose 😗🫠